You Are Enough
The historic Buddha, Siddharta Gautama, began a spiritual journey after he concluded that there must be a way for people to find freedom from suffering. He journeyed for six years, following different teachers, sometimes with friends, and sometimes alone.
It came to pass, one full moon day of the month of May, that he sat down at the base of a tree. It is known as the “bodhi” tree, or tree of enlightenment, and it is still possible to visit the tree today in the Indian state of Bihar.
He sat down at the base of the tree, and he made a decision. This step of making a conscious decision is a very important part of the journey.
He said, “Let my skin and my muscle turn into dust, and likely my sinew and my bone, but until I have attained the supreme enlightenment, I will NOT leave this posture.”
As far as I can tell, he must have said it out loud, because – it is said – he spent the night being tempted and tested by beings seeking to prevent his success:, “Ah, you are born a prince; your life in the palace was so comfortable: wouldn’t you be more comfortable going back to the way things were?”.
Often, the people around you love you just the way you are. That is, they love you just the way that they perceive you to be.
They have a concept of you that somehow fits into their concept of themselves, and if you step outside the image they have of who and what you are, often they will – consciously or not – seek to return you to the way you were.
They say that when you fish for crab, you only need to put them in a box that is a few inches high. Any individual crap could crawl out of that box, if it were the only crab in the box. If there any many crab in the box, any time an individual crab tries to crawl out, the other crab will pull it back in.
Here’s the secret: don’t tell anyone!
If you sit at the base of your own tree and make the decision that you are going to make a change in your life, don’t tell anyone!
Often, they won’t notice. Maybe you have people in your life ready to leap with you. Maybe the people in your life really do see you as you are and will celebrate your becoming. Often, people are conditioned to see their concept of you: it is hard for them to see anything else.
I first learned this as an undergraduate when it happened that I wore a walking cast for about a six week period. I wore a pant leg over the cast, so it was quite discrete, but it was a sock on the foot instead of a shoe, and I was walking with a bit of a limp, and I had been for several weeks.
A professor I knew very well, who saw me basically any day of the working week, asked me if I was going to attend the Christmas dance. I said: “Well, I am wearing a cast…”. He said: “You are wearing a cast?”.
It is astonishing the things that people are not able to see if it does not match the concept they have of a person or situation.
So, if you wish to explore our “7 Ways to Take a Deep Breath”, my invitation is: don’t tell anyone.
You don’t need their concept of you to change – and you don’t need their permission – in order to being to more deeply know, understand and connect with yourself.
Please remember: you are perfect just the way you are.
You Are Enough.
You always have been.
The journey is simply one of remembering what we always have already known.
Comment below, and let us know how it goes!! It is OK to tell the JBYAE community: we know that you – like all of us – are a work in progress, and we’ll cheer you on.
Wishing you joy,
Copyright © 2018 Adela Sandness